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How To Survive A long Distance Relationship
So first, let me start telling you a little bit more about myself and why I am writing this post. I started dating my boyfriend Nick right after my High School graduation. Falling in love with him is one of the best things that have ever happened to me. We have been dating for the past three years ever since we met. Sure, we have had our ups and downs; just like every other relationship.
After our fist summer together came to an end and we were soon torn three hours apart from each other I found myself missing a piece of me. I suddenly felt lost and homesick. I was lucky enough to find the amazing friends that I did to help me get by. Girlfriends are essential. They are always there when you need to talk and they can always give you their thoughts and share their past experiences with you. But its important to stick to your gut and follow your own feelings, because in my perspective; it is your life.
Jealousy… is a bitch. Literally. Jealousy is the worst feeling to have. It makes you act and sound crazy, and it just leaves you feeling bitter. It’s important to have an open communication and understanding with one another. It’s life, and everyone should be able to live their life how they want to. If you are really in love you should feel secure in your own relationship.
MAINTANING YOUR BEST FIRENDS, AND YOUR BOYFRIEND:
After being with my boyfriend for 3 years now, i know that it is hard to manage both relationships at once without someone getting upset. The first step in avoiding this is to plan ahead. Making plans in advance may be hard at some times but it is essential if you want to avoid hurting anyone’s feelings. There are times where your best friend is going to want to hangout with you, and vice versa, but if you have already made previous plans with your boyfriend it is best to stick with them. In a way I got lucky on this one, because my best friend and my boyfriend are great friends. However, that hasn’t always been the case. When I first started dating Nick I became so wrapped up in our relationship, because I wanted to be; but I what I didn’t realize was how left out my best friend felt. They ended up resenting each other for a while because I was the only thing they had in common. If you feel you are having trouble balancing out these two relationships, talk to them both and express your feelings and let them know how much they both mean to you, and that it is difficult for you to maintain both at one time. I found that it became easier with time, and the more I got them both to hangout together, the faster they became friends. Try planning a night with your girlfriends in advance and let your boyfriend know ahead of time so that he can have a guy’s night of his own. This way, he doesn’t get upset or left without plans, and you both get to enjoy a night out!